How do we ever live up to all the ever increasing expectations?
Expectations of Fathers today
Work hard and bring home a good salary
How this day came to be?
The very first American Father’s Day dates back more than a century; in 1909 and during a sermon celebrating Mother’s Day (which was unofficially recognized as a national celebration by this time), a woman named Sonora Smart Dodd hoped to celebrate her father—a civil war veteran and a single parent raising her and her five brothers—with a sermon dedicated to dads everywhere.
Dodd soon petitioned for a day of dad-related sermons before the Spokane Ministerial Alliance of Washington, also lobbying other churches, the local YMCA, and shopkeepers, and was successful; the first ever Father’s Day Sermon took place on June 19, 1910, a Sunday—Dodd had hoped to celebrate the day on June 5, her father’s birthday, but timing and planning difficulties delayed the event a few days. Other pastors at nearby churches followed suit, and it’s said that Dodd soon received hundreds of letters applauding her efforts.
under President Richard Nixon, Father’s Day was made official in 1972, with the former president calling upon all government buildings to raise the American flag in observance of the day. Dodd, who is officially recognized as the founder of Father’s Day, died six years later. Today, it’s estimated that Father’s Day is celebrated in 110 countries
But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. Now if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he is not His. And if Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you. Therefore, brethren, we are debtors—not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God,
So how do we meet all those expectations? Remember
1. You are a Son before you are a Father
Our truest identity is to be a Son of the Father
We see three things in this verse about being a Son of the Father
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
You received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, Abba, Father
The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God
The thing that can prepare us most to be a Father is to be the Son of Godly and loving Father.
The thing that can mess us up the most to be a Father is to be the Son of an ungodly and unloving father
Or the son of a Godly Father who is unloving this father may not be Godly but everyone thinks he is.
Or the son of an ungodly father who is loving this one knows how to do everything except the most important thing lead us to God.
One year ago I came to the understanding
That my identity is in Christ and everything else is just a role that I play and it is temporary
My Father is amazing and nothing threatens him
And because nothing bothers him
I do not have to be afraid of anything
His perfect love has cast out all of my fear.
2. You must follow before you can lead
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.
Following starts by following the Spirits lead
Follow your leaders
Follow your parents
Learning to follow is the greatest way to learn how to lead
In my young life I learned to follow my coaches in my athletic endeavors
As a young man I learned to follow my chain of command in the Air Force
In my first years in ministry I followed to women pastors and had a job working for my younger sister. It was from there God began to allow me to lead and
After leading my own congregations for over 20 years I followed the Lord into a staff position oh man was it tough.
I was hired by Steve
But I was placed under someone 12 years younger than me.
But the more that I learned to follow my supervisor the more I was entrusted to lead. Which led to leading in the city under KSBJ and another woman boss. And now I am leading this congregation what I have walked through is what has made me the leader that I am. I know I am not perfect and that I have lots of warts and flaws but to be your leader I had to learn how to follow.
Dads the more effective follower you are the better leader you will become.
3. You must live before you die
But what that really means is that you must die so that you can live so that when you die you will live eternally
if Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the Spirit is life because of righteousness
Romans 8:11 second part of the verse
He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.
if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.
Our greatest legacy as a Dad is to follow Christ and to multiply that in others.
So Dads you must be a son before you can be a Father
You must follow before you can lead
And you must live before you die.